I’ve some news. I made a new friend the other day. We met unexpectedly, and hit it off in minutes, recognizing something we liked in each other quite quickly, I expect. We met and hung out for a little while, enjoying each others company, and then the next few nights, met again at the same spot at around the same time, being pleased to see each other every time. I admit I was quite surprised by how much I melt with delight every time I see my new friend. We really enjoy each other’s company, and in the week of our friendship, we have spent quality time together doing a favorite thing together – sitting side by side on the steps outside at night staring into the darkness, just listening, sniffing the air and thinking.
I’ve been toying with the whole idea of how far to pursue this new friendship. Yeah, commitment issues. Bottoms line is that I’ve been wary of getting into something like this for years because I worry that circumstances are such that I can’t always be there for such a friend, and so don’t want them to become dependent on me. But this seems to be something out of my control, really. Maybe I should just see how it goes. A good sign is that my friend does not seem to really need me too much, does not seem underfed at all, and in fact has rejected some of my offers to take things to a new level by offers of food. In fact, only a little drink of milk has been accepted during our times together, and a specially bought can of tuna was shown indifference, so maybe the worry about dependence is entirely misplaced, and I should just enjoy the friendship.
Here’s a blurry snap of my friend, the cat (wait, what were you thinking I was talking about?), after enjoying some milk on an evening visit and playing with the string and cork arrangement I have operating one of my blinds. He just came by my door one night, and we got chatting and hanging out on the deck on the warmer of the evenings we had recently. It has got cold the last two, and I’ve not seen him, but I expect he’ll be back later. After some caution, he turned out to be friendly with me once we’d assessed each other and developed a vocabulary of shared greeting noises (I’m good with cats that way), and I am trying to work out if he is new in the area, lost (there are no visible ID tags), or just trying a new patrol route. He came by during the day for the first time the other day when I was watering plants, so it’s not just about evening hanging out. Maybe we’ll patrol the garden together…